Put simply, a paradigm is a multiple of habits that sits in your unconscious mind and pretty much controls your entire life, oh yes, and worse still those habits are other people’s habits!
Ok, so now I can already hear you saying, well what on earth does that mean?
Let me take you back to the beginning. When you born, you inherited features, conditions and behaviours from your parents and grandparents. And, when you were born your unconscious mind was wide open; wide open to accept anything. It accepted everything that was going on around you, through what was said by your parents, siblings neighbours, the home environment you live in and the wider environmental context as it impacted your parents and your upbringing.
Your unconscious mind accepted anything and everything during those first four years of life and then it closed up and you developed your thinking mind.
Just think for a minute, we know that children can speak multiple languages when they are very young, that is because they have no ability to reject this information, to say I can’t do this. The languages are taken into the subconscious mind and accepted. Remember this, if you want your child to be multi lingual then expose them consistently to other languages before the age of 4, just watch how effortlessly they do it!
So there you are 4 years old and your paradigm is pretty much set! It controls your behaviour, your opinion, your perception and your results in life. And all through your life the chances are very high that not only will your paradigm stay set it will search out for evidence to make sure it’s ‘right’ and so it gets stronger and stronger.
We have a number of paradigms that control different areas of our life. Its why sometime we feel we succeed in some things and then other areas no matter how hard we try nothing changes!
All is not lost though; the good news is we can change our paradigm. The first way is not advisable, it’s a big and sudden emotional impact. For example a near death experience or a close bereavement. I am sure you have heard of stories of people coming close to death and then changing their life completely as a result. The second way is to change it the same way that it got there in the first place, space time repetition.
If you are finding that you are not getting the results you want, you need to get to the root cause. Paradigms. Trying to change behaviour will only results in temporary success, you have to change the paradigm to get that permanent result you want that sticks.